How to Date a Stoner When You Don't Smoke Weed: An Easy 10 Step Guide

How to Date a Stoner When You Don't Smoke Weed: An Easy 10 Step Guide

Published on 2/10/22

Marijuana is hard to get away from these days, with celebrity endorsements lining the shelves, CBD skincare taking control of the market, and THC being the go-to supplement to treat sleep and anxiety. With cannabis consumption only gaining popularity, it is a safe assumption to make that you'll come across a few stoners in your life - more specifically, in your dating life. We'll break down the pros and cons of stoner dating and tips for dating a stoner when you don't smoke.

What Is a Stoner?

If you are especially not familiar with cannabis culture, let's make sure we have a key definition down. A stoner is someone who loves cannabis and consumes the herb often. Cannabis dating can be difficult to navigate, so keep reading below!

Why Should You Date a Stoner?


While every dating situation is different, especially if cannabis is involved, there can be an upside to having a stoner boyfriend. For starters, stoners are typically low-stress and more relaxed than the average person. If you find yourself to be high-strung and riddled with anxiety, dating someone who has a calming presence may help your overall state of being. Dating a stoner means that you'll be dealing with the munchies on the regular. So, if you consider yourself a foodie, know that you and your partner will always be cooking up something delicious in the cannabis kitchen.

Perhaps the most important benefit of dating a stoner is that cannabis will always lower inhibitions, lower their guard and keep them very open-minded. Therefore, communication and honesty can flow more easily, creating a stronger bond for your relationship.

The Downside of Dating a Stoner


If you and your partner don't identify as one of those couples who love weed together, there could be some hurdles to overcome. If you find yourself to be a constantly on-the-go person, dating a stoner may slow you down in a way that you don't want. Your stoner girlfriend will typically be more low-key and may not want to go on every single adventure that you're in search of.

Another downside of stoner dating is that the smell of weed can seem all-encompassing. Their house is probably always going to smell like weed, meaning that if you spend a decent amount of time there - you'll likely smell like it too. This also means that their breath can smell like weed, which can be off-putting for anyone.

Lastly, stoners (for better or worse) are typically dependent on the herb. This means that they might not want to do anything without it. That could mean they're going to have to light up before traveling, before going out, or before tackling mundane tasks like grocery shopping.

Top 10 Tips for Stoner Dating

1. Be Patient

Any relationship can be difficult to navigate, but when you throw cannabis into the mix when both aren't smokers - it can shake things up. Not only do you need to be patient in learning the nuances of each other, but you'll have to find that patience when your partner is stoned with a temporarily disrupted short-term memory.


2. Ask the Big Questions

Take some time to stop and think, why does my partner consume cannabis? Consumption for your partner could mean a better night's sleep or alleviating debilitating anxiety. Ask yourself a big question, too. Why don't you consume cannabis? What is it that is stopping you from trying? Workshopping those answers could lead to surprising results.

3. Educate Yourself About THC

Don't be afraid to ask your partner questions or do your research to learn about the effects of weed. Knowing how THC is acting within the body could help you understand your partner and why they choose to roll the joint each night.

4. Know What to Do When They're Too High

Even the most veteran smokers can eat too much of an edible or take too big of a bong rip. When this happens, know how to help calm your partner down from their too-high state of mind. Putting on their favorite record, Netflix special or diffusing their favorite essential oils can change it all.

5. Set Boundaries With Each Other

Putting it all out on the table and letting your partner know what you are and are not comfortable with will make all the difference. For example, let them know if you don't want them to smoke in your car, in your apartment or would like to try some cannabis-free activities.


6. Compromise is Key

A healthy relationship is all about give-and-take, ensuring that no one is giving up too much to make the other happy. You've made the decision to date a stoner, so you'll have to let them smoke! Compromise can look like scheduling dates that don't include their favorite herb or waiting to smoke until after a certain time.

7. Explore Weed and Sex

Many stoners report that sex is better with weed. Even if you don't partake in weed yourself, be open to some fun times in the bedroom. After all, the sexual relationship you have together is important.

8. Look Out for Red Flags

At the end of the day, cannabis is still a mind-alerting substance that has potential for abuse (according to the schedule 1 controlled substance list). While it isn't common, abuse can still occur, so keep an eye out for the warning signs.


9. Find Your Own Chillout Method

If cannabis just isn't your thing, don't worry. There are still plenty of ways to find your maximum chill zone. Consider a yoga practice, drawing a bath, meditation or trying some CBD in an herbal tea.

10. Have Fun Together

In relationships, you're only going to get out of it what you put in it. If there is solid communication on both ends about wants/needs and you have fun together, everything else will come if it's supposed to work out. Happy Dating!

Do you have to date someone that also consumes cannabis? Would it bother you if they're sober? Let us know in the comments below.

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